Showing posts with label Thanksgiving. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thanksgiving. Show all posts

Thursday, November 22, 2012

The Best Thanksgiving Ever (Part 1)

When we dissect the word Thanksgiving, we end up with Thanks and Giving, and in my humble opinion, the ideal Thanksgiving would include both...

And this is where I find myself today... Giving of myself and feeling overwhelmingly thankful.

Today, I drove to Staten Island and volunteered in an attempt to make a rather bleak Thanksgiving for many just a tad bit better.  But the story really began a week ago... or even three weeks ago.

When Sandy hit, like many of us in the area, I had no access to TV... but I was watching news updates on Facebook, listening to reports on the radio, and things seemed bleak.  As I ventured out the morning after the storm to assess the damage at the office (after all, in such a stressful situation, I knew many people would need to get their nervous systems tuned up and I wanted to make sure I'd have a place to do so!) I was in awe.  Huge trees had toppled everywhere across roads, homes, telephone wires... This was so much bigger than I had imagined...  Tears streamed down my face as the I drove, overwhelmed by the circumstances the NY/NJ area had found itself in, and as one who feels better when she's DOING something versus sitting on the sidelines, I ached to be of service somehow. I immediately put my offer out the the Universe... I posted on News Station sites offering help, I called the Emergency hotline in my town offering my services to emergency personnel, I started collecting non-perishables, I called the State Volunteer hotline... And yet I kept finding dead ends or limited response. Sure, when I got in touch with someone, they were grateful for my offer, but no one seemed to want to utilize the help I was offering.

I decided I needed to take a different approach.  I prayed.

And what I determined was that I would be most useful using the gift I'm best at: Treating my patients, who were all living in the same overwhelmingly emotional soup that I was.  After all, I am armed with one of the best tools for addressing stress known to the modern world!

So that's what I did.

But still, it ate away at me... thinking of these people that were cold, homeless, and had lost so much so suddenly on a holiday that's supposed to be about celebrating bounty, prosperity and stuffing ourselves silly.  I was planning my "Annual Thanksgiving for those with nowhere to go" and wishing I could somehow invite all those who've been affected so drastically by the storm...

And then, an interesting turn of events occurred... All but one person canceled their Thanksgiving plans with me...  I was wondering how this would all pan out... That's a lot of cooking for just two people...  I was supposed to go grocery shopping that day... But I went to church, and they mentioned SandyThanksgiving.com.  They were looking for volunteers to help serve food and clean. 

How serendipitous!

I signed up immediately.

As the week went on, I got so many tempting offers from family and friends to join them at their meals... but I am not one to ignore such "coincidences"

And I'm so glad I listened. (Click here to read Part 2)

The Best Thanksgiving Ever (Part 2)

(Read Part 1 of this story here)

On the way to the site, I debated changing my mind. I had hit a lot of traffic (probably people on their way to their Thanksgiving celebrations) and was running late. I didn't know if I'd be able to find my crew or if there'd be anything for me to do. I had no idea what to expect and I was getting overwhelmed and teary thinking of the devastation I was probably going to witness.  The bottom line was, I was making excuses because I was scared and unsure of what I was getting myself into.

I stated before that I don't ignore "coincidence."  I see it as a road sign in my life, indicating that I'm on the right path. Those signs have never steered me wrong and I wasn't going to start brushing it aside now simply because a little fear popped up.

As I drove through Staten Island, I admired the homes, the history, and thought, "Wow, this really doesn't look too bad!" And then... I started to see it... It started with some trees that were no longer upright, but as I got closer to the shoreline, blocks and blocks of homes had signs indicating they were condemned.  A little further down the street, hot food was being served out of tents, and supplies were being distributed.  It resembled a shanty town...  Every couple blocks, these "camps" were set up, with different churches or organizations sponsoring them.  And those were one of the few places I seemed to see any people until I got to the volunteer check-in.

As I was pulling into the parking lot, I stated my business to the two police officers stationed making sure everyone was there for the right reasons.  One responded sarcastically, "Oh.  You here to volunteer, eh?  Geez, I have no idea where you can do that."  The other said, "Ma'am, you're just going to head on over to that tent over there and they can assist you.  There's a lot of manual labor to be done, but I'm sure you can find something else since I'm sure you wouldn't want to do that."  Apparently Officer #2 had no idea who he was talking to (LOL!) but I'll give you one guess who the native New Yorker was. ;)

After reporting for duty, they sent me to Patterson Street where a crew had been stationed. There were gloves, masks, and everything you'd need for demolition and clean-up.  Shortly after I walked up to the site, wondering how to make myself useful, someone called out, "We need a crew to tear out a tile floor!"  "Guess I'm up," I thought, and stepped up to the plate.

I gathered the list of tools we needed and jumped in the back of a U-Haul van with four men (not something I would recommend in different circumstances) and arrived at house a couple blocks away.  This is where I met Marina.

Marina was a very sweet middle-aged Russian woman who taught music.  As I stepped into her home, I saw the decals on the walls... Hello Kitty, silly little frogs... this was a woman who loved the children she taught and did her best to make her home warm, inviting, and fun for them.  Marina welcomed us with a courageous smile.  She was so grateful to have us there. As I gazed around what I assume used to be her living room/teaching studio (her recording studio had been in the basement), I noticed that the bottom two-thirds of the walls in the front room and kitchen had already been removed and the front room was down the to subfloor.  We moved the damaged cabinets, kitchen table, and her bicycle carefully out of the kitchen (the insurance adjuster needed to see them before they were moved anywhere else) and got to work.

Two hours of sweat, force, sledgehammering, shoveling, and hauling and the job was done.  They say "many hands make light work" and I can't disagree.  I remember helping my father remove linoleum (a similar process) from our kitchen (about the same size as hers) when I was a kid and it took us days.  I couldn't believe how much sand had gotten under the tiles... but when the ocean comes for a sleepover, it really leaves its mark.

Marina was so grateful for our help.  The entire time, she was snapping photos of us working. She wanted to take our picture and insisted on getting our contact info (she's having a concert next week and wanted to invite us all).  When she saw my email address she asked, "You're a doctor?" When I said yes, the look on her face was priceless.  "Oh! Thank you so much!!" she exclaimed.  I wondered why this was so awe-inspiring to her... I guess doctors have a reputation for staying out of the trenches...

After snapping our photo, she looked at us in awe and said thank you one last time...  and I saw that look on her face... that look that always makes me offer my patients a hug... I offered, she accepted, and it quickly turned into a tearful group hug. It was such a touching moment. In her broken English, she stated, "Only in America! This would never happen in my country!"  She wanted to return the favor somehow, and I looked her in the eye and said, "You don't owe us anything. Just know that you're loved."  We all gave her another hug and she kissed us all on the cheek and she asked again that we come to her concert because she really wanted to see us all again.  I really hope to attend.

The rest of the day was spent having a quick (but delicious!) Thanksgiving meal (prepared by folks from Liquid Church) and then helping shuttle the U-Haul vans back to the various locations we had gotten them from that morning.

We ran across this sign of the storm after dropping off a couple FEMA employees (they were on leave after working since Sandy hit but decided to stick around for a few days to volunteer... they were staying on a ship).
In case you can't make that out, that's a ship.  Almost on the ROAD.
See the double yellow line?  Pretty wild stuff...
And after a very long, emotional day, as I continued to make folks smile with my humor and antics, (as well as passing out a stash of hand warmers I found - it was COLD once the sun went down!!), I was awarded the coveted hard hat!

If you are interested in being part of the relief efforts, monetary donations can be made here.  Additionally, volunteers are going to be needed for a while... this site can give you some options. Or, keep an eye on my Facebook page and I will be sure to let you know of opportunities as they present themselves.  Also be aware that we are continuing to collect non-perishables at the office or you can simply drop some goodies off at your local shelter.  

Thanks for letting me share my story.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thanksgiving is a wonderful time to reflect on all the things we're grateful for.

Don't underestimate the healing power of gratitude.  It can be an incredible tonic. 

I encourage you to take inventory of those things you are grateful for... especially when you have trouble finding things to be grateful for.  When we are grateful, joy and contentment always follow close behind. 

I also encourage you to search for the gifts within the things we would never choose for ourselves.  Those curve balls, dark clouds, and disappointments that life inevitably tosses our way. What gifts have those hurts delivered to your life?  Discovering those gifts allows us to release the bitterness and pain, and open our hearts and minds to the wisdom gained from such experiences. 

Happy Thanksgiving to You, Beautiful Soul... May it allow you the space to discover how blessed you truly are...